Showing posts with label what is hijab. Show all posts
Showing posts with label what is hijab. Show all posts

Friday, October 2, 2009

Dear Random Anonymous Islam-hating blog stalker

Dear Random Anonymous Islam-hating blog stalker:

For your comment "Stop Oppression Against Women" ...I do. You wrote "hahahahah respect?you get respect from men by covering yourself up? this is insane, do you believe it yourself? i hope not.don't you understand what you are doing? you are supporting oppression against women! men tell women to cover themselves up to gain respect. and you believe in it..lame." Well Anon, I gew up not covering and now I do cover, and non muslim men DO give me more respect so I feel my point is proven ALREADY. If you have doubts and you are an attractive young woman, find a pretty pink headscarf and a plain comfy black shoulder abaya, and wear it at your work for a month. You'll see a difference in the way the men treat you. You won't need any other proof. But even beyond that, I LIKE what I am wearing. I could says that sunglasses are more uncomfortable for me than a face veil, that skinny jeans are waaaay more misognynist than an abaya, and that high heels are DEFINATELY more uncomfortable and suppressive of a woman's ability to do sports or accomplish things than a headscarf. I like my clothes. Get over it. If I wasn't a Muslim and I told you the same thing (because I dressed this way BEFORE I was Muslim too because I found I liked it) would you believe it? Ask ex pat women living in Dubai? Most of them try out the charm and ease of abaya once in a while. I personally dress in a way that I want to---I feel pretty, modest, and comfortable in my clothes, no one forces me to wear them, and I do not force others. I do not support laws enforcing hijab. Hijab is a personal thing, between a woman and God, her Creator. If you don't believe in God, well then my blog probably isn't for you, but you have to understand all Muslims believe the Qu'ran is directly from God, and that books like the Bible and Torah are also sources (though we believe the Qu'ran is the only direct and uncorrupted source).


"Yeah girls are so pretty when men tell them what to wear. Independent girls are ugly Oppressed women are cute. " Personally anon, I go by the dictionary definition of suppressed, which is, those who have no choice are suppressed. Honestly I think alot of the girls forced to wear blue Afghan chadors with mesh (aka the burqa) were suppressed and I feel sad for them. Nothing in Islam ENFORCES hijab. So Taliban hijab style is waaaaaaay wrong. But a woman that chooses to wear a niqab and an abaya from her own beliefs and does so in a way I find pretty, 'course I'm gonna say her style is cute. But some sad looking singer rubbing her half-naked body on a bunch of dancers in a music video to sell more CDS when her own talent is enough to, I am going to say that is a kind of suppression too. It is like Elizabeth Taylor. Everyone loved her when she was young and beautiful and now she is overweight and in a wheel chair and that same media that loved her makes jokes about her??? Being enslaved to youth, form, and beauty is another kind of suppression, one hijab (from one's own choice and conviction) frees you from.

You commented "It is said in the qoran that a woman shall never get attention with jewelleries and make up. So why are you wearing islamic oppression-sheets when you are not muslims- apparently?" Why do you care for details and decoration when you are told to cover yourself up with blankets?It is said in the qoran that you shall not ask for attention. Then do not and be a woman." Um, anon, do you mean abayas??? If you've even worn one, you'll know they are as comfortable as pajamas, and not opressive at all. That's why so many ex-pat women in the Gulf are happy to wear them, running errands, under no compulsion, and not even for any religious reason. As for wearing jewelry and make-up and designs on clothing, nowhere in the Q'uran does it tell us not to do anything of things you claim it forbids in another one of your awesomely educated. Women in the Prophet Mohammed sallalahu alahi wa salaam's time used to wear makeup in the form of henna and kohl (both of which he encouraged), he also complimented a woman for the pretty but simple designs on her garment which shows that some design is OBVIOUSLY allowed in Islam, and jewelry? Women in Islam are allowed to wear gold and men are not. Women in the early days of Islam wore anklets that made alot of noise and attracted some sensual attention when the women danced or stamped their feet with the purpose of attracting that attention. The Q'uran commanded those women not to stamp their feet, it never forbid them from wearing jewelry. Educate yourself darling, please, because you come across as ignorant, hateful, and still wanting to do good for women at the same time.

Am I a savage? You are thinking like men of the old world did with the native Americans when they discovered the New world. That you need to SAVE me, by taking away my way of life, my freedom to believe in peace. I don't need you or anyone else to think for me or rescue me. I am not suppressed/repressed/ OR oppressed. In Islam sexuality is for a time and place where it is protected, A STABLE AND MATURE LONGTERM RELATIONSHIP WHERE BOTH PARTIES ARE BOTH LEGALLY PROTECTED (financially and logically) THAT BOTH PARTIES AGREE TO AND OUTLINE THE DETAILS THEREOF.

To your question "do you dress modest at home or flaunt about in an evening dress?" If I am by myself and just want to play dress up, or it is a special occasion with close women friends who won't feel any emotion but pride in my apearence praising Allah for my sake, or I want to look nice for my family who will also be happy if I look beautiful and can afford nice things, then I will wear an evening dress, or jeans and a tshirt, OR pajamas, or a modest jalabiyia. It is up to me. Islam is not a religion that says do something, such as feign piety or change everything you are, for no reason. Allah Himself has said, that He is beautiful and loves beauty. What God doesn't love is the kind of human pride that is to make other human beings feel less of themselves. No man or woman that feels even a dust grain's weight of this kind of belittling pride will enter paradise (aka heaven). If there unrelated men present, I'll wear hijab---of course, or if there are those women who will feel less because of something I can physically wear because of an attractive physical attribute or financial means that they could never attain, I will dress in a way that we are equal sisters.

Part of the Islamic dress code is that it promotes a brotherhood and sisterhood that marks men and women equal but for their piety and good deeds. We are also supposed to be obviously recognizable as Muslims, not resembling pagans, Jews, and Christians, which is, women cover their chests with the headscarf, and wear an overgarment over their regular clothes while not trying to get male attention by wearing over-the-top makeup and tight clothing or jingling their jewelry or strong perfumes, and men wear loose fitting clothing that covers their belly-button to thighs and best the shoulders and have beards at LEAST a fist length long and do not wear gold or silk or anything that shows financial and social status in public (that can nowadays include flaunting fancy cars and gold pens and rolexs---remember, the Prophet sallalalhu alahi wa salaam, when as Caliph, he could have ridden the finest horses of the Arabs, he rode a donkey).

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

I am tired of Non-Muslim women talking about how "the Muslim woman" feels


I am tired of non-muslim women (apostates count as this people along with Oprah et all) and especially Muslim AND non-muslim men, talking about how Muslim women feel. The speaker in this vid has the right idea. He's like, I am a man, and Barbara Walters and Hirsi Ali aren't Muslimahs, so go ask a Muslim woman how she veiws her life and her hijab.

Thursday, August 20, 2009

"Hijabifying", the definition, in English

In the world of Islamic fashion blogging, a new word has come into existance: "Hijabify". We all use it, perhaps to the confusion and annoyance of some, and the applause and adoration of others. It means different things to different bloggers. Surprisingly, it is not on wikipedia yet, so I thought I'd help ya'll all out.

Hi.jab.i.fy. (hee-jab-i-fy)
most commonly used as a verb
ex. To hijabify this look you will need ...

1. To make high fashion and street wear into Islamic clothing by adapting it to cover the body parts required to be covered in the authentic sunnah (everything but the hands and face * see requirements of a Muslim Woman's Dress) in the manner required in the authentic sunnah (loose, not see-through, or for show and pride, and an overgarment *see requirements of a Muslim Woman's Dress), or taking inspiration from a non-Islamic source through colours and accessories but not straying from any of the requirements of a Muslim Woman's Dress.
2.) Slap a headscarf onto anything so long as there is no skin or very little skin showing.
3.) To make high fashion and street wear into Islamic clothing by adapting it to cover everything but the face and hands in a manner that is loose and not see-through, or taking inspiration from a non-Islamic source through colours and accessories but not straying from any of the requirements of a Muslim Woman's Dress.

My def. is the first one, because I read the command in the Qu'ran and the ahadiths. I respect the third one though I disagree with it on the grounds of modifying the Qu'ran to the extent of rejecting it, because at least it is thoughtfully-based on Islamic ideas and principles. Unfortunately, the second definition is FAR TOO COMMON in the hijab world. Say you take for inspiration the non-hijab picture below. You take the exact same dress and belt. You layer a skin-tight carina turtle-neck under it and skinny jeans under it. And you call it hijabifying it, even though, in Islam, this outfit you have created (first set, top of the page) BARES NONE OF the characteristics of Islamic hijab since it conceals nothing but the skin. It actually does not hide the body parts. Clothed but naked. As labelled in the hijabified-but-not-anything-to-do-with-hijab-but-scarf hijab set, a. the cut of the top/dress emphasises the bust line and cleavage width, b. the belt ephasizes the waist and thus the hips and butt and bust-line, c. the only-thing overgarment about it is from the ribcage to the thigh, and d. as much as I hate it to say it because I think all covering is good, the outfit would be more modest without the headscarf and the tight jeans. You'd just look like a cute, pretty girl, rather than sexy Muslimah. Sexy in the sexual tense cannot be comprised with "hijab" in any Islamic sense. If you have no clothes but such dresses and skinny jeans and can't afford new clothes inshaAllah PLEASE contact fellow sisters (feel free even to leave a comment here on this blog) and I will do my best to get you some more modest attire, and Allah subhanhu wa ta'ala accepts you intentions. If you're not in the third world though, and you've been Muslim for over two years (past puberty), this form of bad hijab isn't excusable anymore.
So what if you loosen up? If you have a hard time finding loose skirts and dresses in suitable non-clingy fabrics or jilbabs, this look is quite acceptable and pretty modest (I personally don't think it is dressing according to the sunnah but I do think it is modest). Wide-leg trouser pants, full-sleeved top, long top over top and loose top over the bust (girls often use shrugs). Um, a. just loose the belt and make sure your hijab covers your chest, and b. know the jilbab [an overgarment] is of the sunnah and is a command in the Qu'ran for the believing women.
I really think this here on below, the third set, is the best example of "hijabifying" since it is using clothing that is, on its own as peices, unislamic in what and how it covers, but combined, it actually forms a modest overgarment. As you can see, the belt has been lost and the pink of the inspiration peice has been replaced in the skirt and with the clutch. A long light sweater shrug flows loosely away from the body, drawing attention away from the curves of a woman's body, and the hijab aka khimar (the proper word for the headscarf is khimar and not hijab) is pulled over the chest as the Qu'ran commands the believing women to do.
Now, "hijabifying" can also be done to traditionally Islamic clothing (ha ha ha, I love this cuz I find it easier and I end up spending less money and being more comfortable in my clothes but to each their own) by taking a jilbab or long khimar, ect, and using a non-Islamic inspiration source, use some of the colours and accessories from the look to make a "halal-take" on the style. For example, instead of using a belt, I would take the colour of the belt and use a clutch. Instead of the earrings, a ring. This post took a long time to do, so I am tired and off to bed:D

Thursday, April 2, 2009

Turkish Hijab Styles

The Qu'ran is very specific about how the hijab/khimar (as in the headscarf) should be worn. It says we should pull the headress down so that it covers our jube (chests---the va va voom ladies). If you are not covering your chest with your hijab you are not wearing Islamic hijab. I hate to break it to you but you are wearing Christian hijab. Jewish women were supposed to cover their hair, and the Christian women to cover the hair (their wrap style was often so that the neck and hair were covered but not the chests). I'll do a post on the differences inshaAllah.

I love the bright styles and European aura Turkish hijab styles give, but the one thing I can't stand about them is often the lack of chest coverage in the fashion shots. I can always wrap my turkish hijab to give lots of chest coverage, but I wanted to share this Turkish hijab fashion pic that shows some more than awesome chest coverage. Do you like? Would you wear this style?

And to answer Inspired Muslimah's question in the comment section, I don't think an Al-Amira counts as hijab if it isn't long enough to cover the chest also. I always wear an al-amira under my shaylas to get the coverage I am supposed to have.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

NON MUSLIM Q: do you dress like that at home?

Non-muslim question, one I have heard from strangers on the street, to co-workers that I have worked with for over two years: do you dress like that at home? Meaning, do I cover head to toe in abaya, and do I shower and sleep in my hijab.

Answer is....... NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! LOL. You guys are so cute.

For those who have known me in the staff room for over two years, of course not. You know I like to talk about your new highlights, and compliment your tank tops and nailpolish. If I lived in my abayas and hijabs I would never care about your cute capris or where you got your high-lights done, and how much it cost, ect ect. I only wear hijab and loose modest clothing in front of non-mahram men (men that theoretically it would be medically and morally permissable for me to marry). If the only male co-workers and bosses and clients we all had ladies was my milk-brother S, I would only wear my abaya to work, and then I would hang it up. When you see how I dress underneath my abayas (when I feel like it-with abaya you have a choice of what you want to do in terms of effort and ease) it would click on your heads that I read Vogue more than ya'll and the only thing I am interested in, in the gossip pages you love to buy, is whowhatwear page. I like fashion. I like art. I like beauty. (I THINK GOSSIP IS TRASHY and I know when ya'll are talking about me as if you feel sorry for because I dyed my hair red and ya'll can't see it---Tracey and Erin and others you are excused from this). LOL, I don't shower in it, and yes, my husband has seen my hair AND body. He is also well aware of my fashion sense, and encourages me to express myself however I see fit.

I am a bit more dressy than most, and eclectic, and I can get away with wearing pretty much anything because as all you co-workers are aware, I can eat and eat and eat and I am still in danger of losing more weight and fitting less size zeros than Kate Moss (health issues all, that have taught me to value food). Anyways, I am a dress-up girl, part explorer, part lady, part come what-ever-i-like little girl. My style before Islam was a little more modest than I like to dress now, because back then, I didn't have the sheild of the abaya, and I didn't want to expose my body or playful parts of my personality (and femininity) for the reality that people would focus on only one aspect of who I am, or misjudge me, or abuse my character in some way. I now have the freedom to determine where and when I am what and who I am to the fullest, safely, and with self-respect.

LOL the outfit pictured above is an outfit I own than I am going to wear on wednesday (it could be tacky but on me it isn't soooo I am going with it till trends change:D). The items are a little different but the composition is the same. I have a pink plaid chiffon top (but mine has a tie-neck unlike the set one), and I am wearing it with white lace-trimmed capri tights and a white pouf mini from Jacobs. I am playing with white lace fingerless gloves, a black jewel bib necklace, a heart shaped bag, crystal cuffs and bracelets, suede chunky pumps, red lipstick, smoky eyeshadow and my hair braided to the side, with pink satin ribbon woven through it. It looks somewhat sexy, very playful, and more cute than all that. I wear and abaya over top and a coloured pashmina, and the same bag, and ya never know. I could also be wearing my pajamas under it all.Question: DO I RESENT that MUSLIM MEN (including my husband) can WEAR STORE CLOTHES in the HOME and ON THE STREET?

Not the way my husband dresses I don't. He always covers his awrah, and while he is less into sunnah dressing than me, he always covers what he's supposed to (shoulder, belly-button, sexy abbs). My husband is almost always in long sleeves, and he is always scented nice, and when he goes swimming, he covers his stomach and chest with a surf suit because that is more modest, and he doesn't want women checking out his physical beauty and more than I want men other than the love of my life seeing MY beauty and personality and sexuality. My husband likes fashion and shopping (more than most Canadian men I know), and he's a fan of graphic tees, vests, blazers, fedoras, scarves round the neck, and sneakers (he's got more shoes than I do but I am competing in purses). The two of us share my pink shemagh (and I'm happy that I got a man that isn't afraid to wear pink). I still would prefer him to wear a thobe and ghutra in the West, but I am not gonna pressure him, like he never pressured me to wear abaya or even hijab. After all, he is very stringent on the sunnah of using miswaak and rinsing the mouth and smelling all good. Alhamdulilah, he has always been more on with me to do the fard obligations than the sunnah of the fard but he couldn't care less if I wore a pink dishdasha over a black abaya in the West. He worries about my safety and wishes I'd wear less black and seems afraid that I might someday wear niqab here and get attacked by neo nazis, but he supports me when I feel strongly on an issue so long as I am doing everything more important than that particular idea in my head already. For example, before I wear niqab, he'd like to see me ALWAYS praying nafl. Muslim men have hijab too. Their hijab is to lower their gaze, and cover their awrah, and then fulfill their other obligations, and then do all the sunnah they can. I DO resent Muslim men who wear bathing suits that expose their awrah while their wives are in full niqab on the beach, or who dress like male models and leer at women while their sisters and mothers are well-behaved at home. THESE MEN I bare my TEETH for. And I DETEST. DETEST UTTERLY AND COMPLETELY. These fools and tools are the reason I appreciate one of the aspects of my hijab, although my hijab is more than an aspect of "sheild".LOL, and I had to include this, because inshaAllah the daughter I have will have my husband's curly hair (he says inshaAllah not) and his complexion (this he says sure but hopes she gets my weirdo eyes). I will teach my daughter that hijab is something that deserves respect and is a grown up thing. One that represents her freedom as a woman to move about in the world and make her own decisions. Underneath of that responsibility (and true freedom is at the same time the most dire responsibility) she can be safe to show every aspect that she is, and develop all facets of herself without impediment.

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

How to Wear Pants: in some semblance of hijab

An overgarment (jilbab) is a fard obligation of hijab as agreed upon by the scholars of the four madhabs http://ilovehishmatheblog.blogspot.com/2009/03/not-imitating-disbelievers-and-what.html. A jilbab (in the least strict opinion) must comprise of pieces of clothing or fabric that are loose enough to cover an inner layer clothing when you leave the home. Pants are not a true overgarment in the opinion of any of the scholars but if they worn out of necessity for your safety in an endeavor, there is evidence to say this is permissable. I am gonna state, I don't wear this, because I don't believe pants can BE a jilbab, and the Prophet (S.A.W) forbid women from leaving the home without a jilbab, but if you are of the opinion from your research that pants can be worn as jilbab or you need to have mobility of the legs for an urgent endeavor that cannot be avoided and there is more benefit for you to do this thing than there is if you do not, you need to know how to wear pants in the manner closest resembling jilbab as possible. Unlike some scholars, I personally do not think pants count a resembling men's clothing because many cultures have women wearing very feminine pants so I have no problem doing this post. As a new hijabi, with no other means out there, I totally used to wear pants, and I think they can be modest clothing if worn in the manner to be described, but in my own opinion they, for the most part, fail to meet the conditions of jilbab (mainly the first one, that it be an overgarment).
To wear pants so that they resemble jilbab step #1: wear wide leg pants/trouser. Skinny jeans or tights count as clothed but naked and are not hijab in the slightest. If you could not confortably fit a pair of boot-cut jeans or a mid-thigh mini skirt into these pants they are not loose enough to wear in front of non-maharam men. To wear pants so that they resemble jilbab step #2: wear a tunic top that covers at least to the knee, else the necessary parts of your body won't be covered. Since (as you can see from the pic of the purple shukr pants above) the pants will still show the V of the private area and the shape of your butt, and this must be covered by an additional garment that falls at least to the knee to have all the necessary areas covered. With your top worn correctly, and your legs somewhat close together, it should appear that you are wearing a skirt and modest top over your regular clothing.
To wear pants so that they resemble jilbab step #3: if your pants are tighter, cover with top at least to mid thigh though the ankles are best. This way the top is acting as the jilbab, and this is closer to what the respected scholars' opinions about what jilbab is than pants acting as the jilbab anyway.
A good place to buy wide leg pants is http://www.shukronline.com/womens-pants.html and a good post about why wearing pants if so often bad hijab http://hegab-rehab.blogspot.com/2009/02/pants-i-dont-hate-them-100.html BTW, I am not copying Ange's post in anyway, since I posted these pictures that she has also used on BM a long time ago (not that I think Ange would mind at all) stating what was hijab about them, and what wasn't. I love all my sisters for the sake of Allah (S.W.T), and I wish for none of us to miss out on the scent of Jannah, because we were clothed, but still appeared as if naked.
BTW, I did also want to point out in my post, that the hijab worn by the beautiful pants models in my set does not cover the chest, and is thus not Islamic hijab. The Qu'ran was quite clear on how the headress (khimar) should be worn, and it should be styled to that the head in its entirety, including the neck, ears, and chest (and in some lesser held opinions the chin--- but this one I disagree with) are covered, or else, in the words of Baba Ali http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D6AvYJih8A4----IT'S NOT HIJAB.

Monday, March 23, 2009

another abaya i love

Abaya Saudi for 44.95 euros. I'd wear it with those cute pink flats from forver21.com (they're 14.00 $ USD).

I'd just like to add, when I do fashion sets, I am not rich. I do not buy all the things I post nor do I promote excessive materialism. I love the art of fashion, but in my daily life I wear things that are practical. My abayas often come from ebay for $25.00-35.00 and when I need one I will splurge on a nice abaya but often don't spend over $80.00 CAD (this is sort of a once a year splurge for me). It IS important to me though to buy something with quality fabric and sometimes it IS worth it to buy a hundred dollar abaya that will last you five years, rather than a cheap one that will only last a year, and of that year you won't like to wear it more than a couple of times every few weeks. Instead, I like to personalize my own abayas by sewing and beading them, and the same abaya often gets redesigned with ribbon a couple of times a year. While I would love to be rich enough to afford everything on this site and still be able to give sadaqah enough triples times that ammount, I can't so... (I do think it'd be okay to have all this stuff if you gave away three times it but you really wouldn't need all this much would you?:D). It is just fun for me to do, and the links are useful for other sisters who need to buy a garment. I actually have a favourite abaya I found in a used store. And all my fabulous jalibiyias are hand beaded (they weren't so fabulous and I bought them for ten bucks each from an Egyptian street vendor---else I sewed them by cutting up a salwar kameez and dupata and sewing it to a granny dress from a used store:D). My grandmother was a very elegant lady during world war II and even though she had no money she taught me that she could make the same suit last four seasons by changing the ribbon trim on it, or the cuffs, or wearing a new scarf or hat with it:D That is very much my hijab style. Same abaya but new look. An abaya I had that was trimmed with coins, got redesigneed with lace, and now it is currently beaded with crystal and keffiyah fabric. It has had four lives. It is getting nigh see-through from being worn out, but no one could guess it:D

I want sisters who need jilbabs, khimars, and niqabs to know what options they have, and making fashion sets for me is fun. I don't buy everything I post, and I know that sites are reliable to order from because I ordered something from them or know sister IRL (in real life) that have. I don't want sisters to get scammed, nor to waste a tonne of time trying to find things online. I want them (if they do have a need for something) to know where they can find it, ect., what sites are good to order from, and what things can look good together. What might be perfectly modest for me in accessory choices might not be for someone else, so when I show makeup or high heels or things to be worn under the abaya, please, use common sense. I don't wear nail polish unless it is that time of the month but sometimes I show it in my sets because it fills out the composition nicer. I am not advocating sisters compromise their ability to make wudu with ease. I personally have stopped wearing heels over two inches even though I can walk in them silently because I have an opinion on the matter based on my research. I still show high heels in my sets, because I do wear them at women only parties and at home with my husband (when I am cooking because my kitchen floor is cold):D Use common sense, and please use the links how you'd like. The post is meant to showcase a jilbab and hijab or jilbab and niqab so that you find two items that match, or it is to give a tip of something that might be worn over the jilbab to give it a new look for an occasion, like work or play. Islam is about balance. Balance modesty and style. Balance practicality with expense. Have fun but always remember those in need. That's all I can think of right now.
Love Pix

Sunday, March 22, 2009

NOT IMITATING THE DISBELIEVERS-and what that means in terms of hijab

The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam spoke the truth when he said: "Whoever imitates a people is one of them." (Ahmad & Abu Dawood) and he sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam did indeed warn us: "O Muslims! You will imitate the nations before you very closely to the extent that if they went into a lizard's hole, you would enter it as well” his companions, may Allah be pleased with them, inquired: “(Do you mean) the Jews and Christians, O Messenger of Allah?” He sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam replied: "Who else?” (Bukhari & Muslim). The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam also said: "The Day of Judgment will not come until my Nation closely imitates the nations before them.” It was asked: “Like the Persians and Romans (those who hold power), Messenger of Allah?” He sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam replied: "Who are the nations (I could mean) except those?” (Bukhari).

So obviously, if a Muslimah is going to imitate anyone, it should be the women of the early Sahaba right, so does that mean that modern (this time period) clothing is out of the question? I know alot of sisters have heard that the only option that they have is to wear a traditonal abaya as an overgarment. Whoever has taught them this usually uses the hadith above "whoever imitates a people is one of them” to prove the ruling that an overgarment must consist of one solid, opaque piece. I am an abaya girl myself but I know that solely using a hadith and establishing it as a ruling is incorrect. Ayat from the Qu`ran and ahadith are the raw materials which the jurists use to provide the istilaal (rulings).

Answer is, it doesn't, but one has to be very careful of not to compromise the conditions of hijab which modern and cultural clothing is often ill-designed for. The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam advised us to take what is good of culture and leave what is bad of it (what goes against the teachings of Islam). Islam accepts (and indeed absorbs) the cultures and traditions of other societies on the condition that they do not violate the Shariah. The wording of the hadith [in question] is general and on the face of it seems to suggest that *any* emulation/imitation makes you from that nation, additionally, as stated, it doesn’t suggest that it is a bad thing (being from the nation you emulate) since the Qur’an has stated “We have made you into nations so that you may know one another”, so immediately there is a problem of defining what is meant by the hadith.

We can find evidence in the Sunnah that suggests that Muslims are to refrain from any unislamic behaviour (doing things that could be seen as unislamic behaviour such as displaying sexual beauty or ostentatious displays of wealth or pride of affiliation with any other group other than Islam in their public clothing, as well as doing anything that might leave some doubt in the minds of the disbelievers if you are a Muslim or not, or idenifies you as following a practice of the disbelievers that is forbidden or disaproved of in Islam). Think of when the call to prayer was being designed for example. The Muslims could have used either the horn or Jews or the bell of the Christians to announce when salat was to begin, but that might have confused people and led to people assuming they were other than the Muslims. If your clothing or appearence is confusing as such (even if is meets all the requirements or what must be covered and what that garment consists of) then it fails to meet the requirements of the hadith that says we are not to imitate the disbelievers.

The first thing that must be discussed in the issue of hijab, is that hijab is not the headscarf or even simply modest clothing. It is the entire veil of modesty and protection that is a right given to all women and men by their Creator which includes lowering their eyes from what is harmful, also their minds and hearts from such things. It the right of each individual to be judged solely for their right actions and piety, and modest hijab should help decrease vanity of an individual, and increases idealogical and spiritual success, being that ideas and effort are more valued in the public sphere than physical bodies and beauty which are often irrelevant to being productive in the work place, or in a learning environment, and can belie the actual depth of spiritual achievment. Modest clothing is only complimentary to this pursuit, not the aim of it. So called `shariah` laws of governments enforcing hijab and meteing out punishments for those who do not wear what is termed ``appropraite hijab`` are in erre, because there is nothing in the guidance of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam to say that another man or another woman can legislate a punishment for a woman who disregards the obligations set out clearly in the Qu`ran, but this is the realm of the Creator, not the Created. There can be no earthly punishment inflicted on those men and women who do not wear Islamic clothing. It is not an issue for men and other women to discuss about a Muslimah if she disregards an ayah pertaining to herself, or to try and punish her for not fulfilling a commandment about hijab. Their job is only to warn her.

That having been said, for the believing woman to ignore a commandment written in the holy Qu`ran, is to ignore Allah subhanhu wa ta ala, and to risk being ignored by Him on the day He subhanhu wa ta ala admits the believers into Jannah. The first commandment revealed in the Qu`ran pertaining to a woman dress (her hijab) was the commandment to wear a ``jilbab``. Scholars know that the commandment for jilbab came before the ayah about khimar (the headscarf) because there are ahadith that attribute the ayah about khimar to the Medina period (after the early Muslims had already migrated there), hadith stating that the women of Ansar (a people in Medina that converted to Islam and sheltered the persecuted Muslims from Mecca) made their khimars from their overgarments (their jilbabs). As will be discussed, and the hadith that denotes the time period presented, the jilbab was the first condition of a Muslim woman's physical dress.

In the Quran, Surah al-Ahzab ayah 59 (33:59) says:
Ya ayyuha an-Nabiyy qul li azwajika wa banatika wa nisa al-mu'minin yudnina alayhinna min jalabib hinna; dhalika adna an yu'rafna fa laa yu'dhayn. Wa kana Allahu Ghafur Rahim
O Prophet! Say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the faithful to draw their JALABIB close around them; that is better that they will be recognized and not annoyed. And God is ever Forgiving, Gentle.
The word "jalabib" is the plural of "jilbab". Clearly, this ayah states a command for Muslim women to wear a garment which Allah subhanhu wa ta ala has called "jilbab".
In addition to this there are hadiths record how the sahabiyat (rAa) went about obeying Surah al-Ahzab ayah 59 when it was revealed: Narrated Umm Salama, Umm al-Mu'minin: When the verse, "That they should draw their jalabib close around them" was revealed, the women of Ansar came out as if they had crows over their heads by wearing jalabib. (Sunan Abu Dawud Book 32 #4090).
And there is more even than this. Some of the women remained in seclusion and never went out so that they did not own the garment called "jilbab". The hadiths record that the Prophet commanded the women to come out for the Eid gathering, and what he said about the issue of the garment called "jilbab": Narrated Umm Atiyya: We were ordered to bring out our menstruating women and screened women to the religious gatherings and invocation of the Muslims on the two Eid festivals. These menstruating women were to keep away from the musalla. A woman asked, "O Messenger of Allah! What about one who does not have a jilbab?". He said, "Let her borrow the jilbab of her companion".(Sahih Bukhari Book 8 #347) If it were halal for a sister to go outdoors without the garment called "jilbab", why didn't the Prophet allow the women to do this? But instead, he told them that they must find the garment called "jilbab" to wear, even if they had to borrow one from a friend. The obligation is plain for the believing women: it is a disobedience of Allah subhanhu wa ta ala and of His messenger for a woman to go outdoors if she is not wearing the garment called "jilbab". There are those who argue that the jilbab was worn primarily to distinguish a woman as a Muslim but hijab is enough to do that now so do we still have to wear it and the answer would be yes, because it is commandment in the Qu`ran that was never revoked by the Messenger of Allah sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam and this message was for all peoples for all times. Jilbab was made fard, and that is not argued by any of the companions or Salaf, but what exactly jilbab is, and how much it must cover, is something the Muslims are allowed to have different opinions on, because it is something which the four madh'habs (Shafi`ì, Hanbali, Hanafi, and Maliki) have different opinions on.
The opinion that nothing but the hands and face must show being fard with the jilbab (as an obligation) is the majority opinion, and the hanbali fiqh interpets that the face must be covered also). I will highlight both valid sides of this debate which has its place in the realm of the scholars in a post of a later date but I am of the opinion that while the niqab INDEED does have its place in Islam, it is not a religious obligation in the way that a headscarf and overgarment are. It is something that may be done for reward as is the majority opinion of the scholars. In the very least, it is perfectly halal and was an action of the Prophet`s wives (may Allah subhanu wa ta ala be pleased with them) so no muslimah should call down the practice of a fellow muslim sister in Islam, and fail to defend her rights by stating that the niqab is a practice outside of Islam. There is much evidence to say it is not an obligation, but it is certainly a valid and halal part of the religion.


Since there many state that there are no Islamic illustrations of 7th century jilbab, it is not at all clear if the modern jilbab (commonly referred to as the abaya) is the same garment as that referred to in the Qu`ran. Some modern Muslims insist that the contemporary jilbab and the garment described in the Qur'an and the hadith are exactly the same, and that the Qur'an therefore requires the believer to wear these garments, while other modern Muslims think that so long as garment meets the requirements of jilbab by covering the necessary areas in the same manner it can be composed of whatever garment or garments the discerning Muslimah feels most comfortable in. So what does the Qu`ran and the ahadith state jilbab was and what did it have cover and what manner did it have to be worn in to count as jilbab, one is left wondering.

The Scholars of the four madhabs and all of the companions are unanimous that the garment called jilbab is fard from studying the various ahadith, and the scholars formed two vaild opinions about what the jilbab might be. That the jilbab is a loose outergarment like a coat or cloak or that it is a sheet covering the entire body except for the eyes. The coat/cloak opinion is the majority and the sheet but for the eyes, the minority. Both opinions are valid, but there are no opinions that state that loose clothing or a shalwar kameez is ok and counts as jilbab.

Why do the scholars say that the jilbab is an outergarment? Why aren't loose modest clothes without anything worn underneath of them what is talked about in the Qu'ran?

There is one thing that all the scholars referenced above are agreed on and that is that the garment called "jilbab" is an outergarment. Their only disagreement is in how much of the body the jilbab is to cover. How did the scholars derive that the jilbab is an outergarment? There are two ways to do this. First, they might just look up the definition of the word "jilbab" in a dictionary of classical Arabic. Second, they might verify for themselves by intelligent analysis of the Quran that the jilbab is an outergarment. We can look at both of these sources.

What is the defintion of the word "jilbab" in Arabic? The definitive dictionary of classical Arabic, Lisan al-Arab by ibn al-Mandhur, provides the following definition, "The jilbab is the outergarment, mantle, or cloak. It is derived from the word tajalbaba, which means to clothe. Jilbab is the outer sheet or covering which a woman wraps around her ON TOP OF HER GARMENTS to cover herself from head to toe. It hides her body completely" (Lisan al-Arab, volume 7, page 273) The dictionary Al-Qamus al-Muhit by Abu Tahir al-Fayruzabadi provides the definition, "The jilbab...is that which CONCEALS THE CLOTHES like a cover" The dictionary Al-Sihah by Jawhari provides the definition, "The jilbab is the cover and some say it is a sheet. Jilbab has been mentioned in the hadiths with the meaning of sheet, which the woman WRAPPED OVER HER CLOTHES". Of course, this dictionary meaning COULD have just evolved from scholars opinions so I want to see what the Qu`ran has to say about it all.

Surah an-Nur ayah 31 (24:31) reads as follows: Wa qul li al-mu'minat yaghdudna min absarihinna wa yahfazna furujahunna wa laa yubdina zenatahunna illa maa zahara min haa wal-yadribna bi khumurihinna ala juyubihinna; wa laa yubdina zenatahunna illa li bu'ulatihinna aw aba'ihinna aw aba'i bu'ulatihinna aw abna'ihinna aw abna'i bu'ulatihinna aw ikhwanihinna aw bani ikhwanihinna aw bani akhawatihinna aw nisa'ihinna aw maa malakat aymanu hunna aw at-tabi'ina ghayri ulu'l-irbat min ar-rijal aw at-tifl alladhina lam yazharu ala awrat an-nisa wa laa yadribna bi arjulihinna li yu'lama maa yukhfina min zenatahinna. Wa tubu ilaAllahi jami'an, ayyuha al-mu'minun la'allakum tuflihun

And say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their adornment except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms, and not to display their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you the faithful, in order that you are successful.

This ayah lists a number of things that Muslim sisters are to do:
1) Lower the gaze (from looking at what is haram to be seen of men).
2) Guard the private parts. This means not to let them be seen or touched by who is haram to see or touch.
3) Conceal all of the body and its decorations except "what is apparent of it". Most scholars are agreed that the face and the hands are "what is apparent of it". Some scholars say that only the eyes are "what is apparent of it".
4.) Wear a khimar (headcovering) and extend it to cover the bosom. This means that it covers the hair, the neck, the shoulders, and the upper chest.
5.) That the husband, mahram relatives, women, slaves, male servants who do not feel sexual desire, and children are the only people who can see more of the woman than "what is apparent of it".
6.) Not stamp the feet or otherwise act so that what is hidden becomes known to others. This means do not make noise purposefully from anklets or bracelets or high heel shoes in an effort to attract attention to à woman`s movements.

It can clearly be seen from this analysis that Allah subhanhu wa ta ala in Surah an-Nur ayah 31 already commands a woman that when non-mahram men are present, she is to wear clothing that is loose and opaque plus a headscarf (referred to in the Quran as khimar) so that with these garments, she covers everything but her face and her hands. If this were all that was necessary, why has Allah subhanhu wa ta ala also revealed Surah al-Ahzab ayah 59? For this reason, the garment called "jilbab" that has been commanded in Surah al-Ahzab ayah 59 must be something in addition to the modest clothing. This is how the scholars derive the obvious interpretation that that the garment called "jilbab" is some type of outergarment, something that is worn on top of the modest clothing commanded in Surah an-Nur ayah 31.

Surah an-Nur ayah 60 (24:60) provides an exemption for certain women in regard to hijab (and for me personally this is the most importan bit of evidence that jilbab as an overgarment is fard). It reads as follows: Wa al-qawa'idu min an-nisa allati laa yarjuuna nikahan fa laysa alayhinna junahun an yada'na thiyab hunna ghayra mutabarrijat bi zenat. Wa an yasta'fifna khayru la hunna. WaAllahu Sami'un Alim

And the elderly women, those who do not have hope of marriage, there is no fault on them that they lay aside (some of) their clothing as long as they are not making a display of their adornment. And that they refrain is better for them. And Allah is the Hearer, the Knower

Here is an interesting puzzle. Elderly women who have no hope of getting married again are allowed to "lay aside (some of) their clothing" - but they are restricted from making a display of their adornment. How can a woman lay aside any part of her clothing without making a display of her body? If all she were wearing was the the loose modest clothing (and that was her jilbab) then she would be naked. The only possible answer is that she is laying aside an extra layer. When she takes off the extra layer, the layer of clothing that she is wearing under it will still cover all of her body that must be covered. Contrary to popular belief, the hijab is not allowed to removed at old age by women in public, because this means that the woman would not have to wear it during salat while it is well known that the khimar (hijab-headcovering) must always been worn while prayers are preformed else the salat is invalid, as testified to by Aisha (r.a).
So what is this "extra layer" that Muslim women are wearing over their modest clothes---it is is their jilbab. What else can it be? What we have here is that the Muslim woman is commanded by Surah an-Nur ayah 31 that when she is around non-mahram men, she must cover all of her body except her face and her hands. This rule is always in force whenever non-mahram men are present, whether she is indoors or outdoors. But when she goes outdoors, she is to wear an extra layer, an outergarment, over the clothes she is already wearing (on account of Surah an-Nur ayah 31). This extra layer or outergarment is the jilbab. The only exception to the rule regarding dress is that elderly women who do not have hope of marriage may leave off the jilbab as long as they continue to wear other clothing that covers all of their bodies except the face and hands. Surah an-Nur ayah 60 would not even make sense unless the jilbab is an extra layer, an outergarment worn over the normal clothes. This is another reason why modest clothing is not enough.

So, the jilbab is an OUTERGARMENT, but why?

Modesty is always a concern whenever non-mahram men are present, and for the purposes of modesty a sister must wear a khimar and loose, opaque clothing so that she covers everything but her face and hands whenever non-mahram men are present. This is what has been commanded by Surah an-Nur ayah 31. It is therefore correct to say that shalwar kameez or other conservative outfits, and the khimar, are sufficient for the purposes of modesty. But when a sister goes outdoors or in public, there may be other concerns beyond modesty. Surah al-Ahzab ayah 59 mentions these concerns in giving the reason for the command of jilbab, when it says "that is better so that they are recognized and not annoyed". From this we can see that the jilbab has two purposes:1) To make the sister recognizable as a Muslim woman 2) To protect her from being "annoyed", i.e., harassed. In conclusion, the jilbab is not primarily for the purpose of modesty, which is satisfied by the khimar and conservative clothes, but is for the additional purposes of identity and protection, issues that are only factors of concern outdoors and in open public places. Some may say this is not necessary in this day an age since Muslim women in modest clothing are not mistaken for prostitutes, but it was a condition of a woman`s dress that was never removed. It is for your protection, and it identifies you as Muslimah different from traditional Christian and Jewish dress, where similiar modest clothing is worn. Islam is the only religion where an overgarment was required, and it was to keep the Muslims from resembling the disbelievers.

What are the rules for the jilbab?

The Muslim woman must wear jilbab whenever she leaves the house and the scholars have determined that jilbab should not reveal her physical form by being tight-fitting or see through in nature. Booty-hugging abayas don`t count as jilbab. The scholars have differed as to just how much the jilbab must cover. As explained above, there are two opinions on this.

The first opinion of the scholars is, in effect, that the jilbab or outergarment should cover everything but the face and the hands. There are two sub-opinions here. The first sub-opinion is that there must be a single garment that covers everything that must be covered. This would mean that the garment called "jilbab" must be something like the garments known as "abaya" and "chador". The second sub-opinion is that a combination of garments that cover what the jilbab is to cover may substitute for the jilbab. Specifically, these scholars permit the head to be covered by the headscarf (khimar) and the feet to covered by socks and shoes. As long as a sister covers her head and neck with the khimar, then her jilbab does not need to cover over her head, but may be like a coat, which just covers from the shoulders on down (or a long tunic and skirt worn over other modest clothing). And as long as her feet are completely covered with socks and shoes, then her jilbab does not need to come down to the ground but may come down only to the ankles. This is the majority position. We can say that according to the majority opinion of the scholars, the garment called "jilbab" is any garment that meets the following criteria: this garment is an outergarment; an extra layer; something worn over the normal clothingif the khimar is not worn, this garment must cover from the top of the head on down, but if the khimar is worn, this garment only needs to cover from the shoulders on downsimilarly, if socks are not worn, this garment must cover down to the ground, but if socks are worn so that the feet are completely covered, this garment only needs to cover down to the anklesthis garment must be made of fabric that is thick and opaque so that it does not show what is beneath it, and it must be loose so that it does not reveal the contours of what is beneath it. These scholars are agreed that the jilbab is to be worn outdoors and in open public places like the market, the masjid, etc. It does not need to be worn indoors, such as in the house or a building where access is controlled. This is because the jilbab serves the purposes of asserting the Islamic identity of a sister, and of protecting her from harassment, which are concerns only outdoors and in public. The rules in Surah an-Nur ayah 31 govern the dress of the Muslim woman indoors. Thus a sister may wear the khimar and modest clothing indoors, and this is her hijab for this location. However, the jilbab is part of her hijab when she is outdoors or in open public places.

According to the second opinion of the scholars, the jilbab must cover the entire body except for the eyes. Just as most of the scholars who hold the first opinion allow the khimar, coat, and socks and shoes to substitute for a one-piece outergarment that covers everything but the face and hands, so most of the scholars who hold the second opinion allow multiple pieces to substitute for the one-piece outergarment or sheet that covers everything but the eyes. These multiple pieces may include a separate affixed face veil (niqab), a headscarf (khimar), a coat or cloak (jilbab), and socks and shoes. However, these scholars would strongly emphasize that the coat-jilbab is not the same as the Quranic jilbab. The Quranic jilbab must cover everything but the eyes. It should also be noted that most of these scholars also hold that Surah an-Nur ayah 31 mandates the covering of everything but the eyes around non-mahram men, even when the sister is indoors. It is not clear if these scholars would allow modest clothes, a khimar, and a niqab or if they do require the jilbab indoors (i.e., if non-mahram men are present). Sisters who prefer this opinion should consult a scholar for specific advice on this question. Note: Some scholars of this group hold that the jilbab must be a one-piece outergarment that covers everything but the eyes. This is the position of the Saudi ulama.

What we must always keep clear in our minds is that there is the Quranic jilbab, which is any outergarment that meets the criteria set out in the Shari'a; and there may also be a "cultural jilbab" that refers to a very specific style. As Muslims we are responsible for following the Shari'a not Arab culture. When a word is used in the Quran or hadiths, we need to give it the definition it has according to the Shari'a, not the definition it might have in Arab culture. So whether you wear an abaya, a chador, a djellaba, or indeed a "jilbab", be sure that it meets the criteria of the Shari'a: It is an outergarment, an extra layer, something that you wear over your clothes. It is made of thick, opaque fabric so that nobody can see what is under it. It is loose so that nobody can see the contours of your figure. If you are going to wear a coat-like jilbab, be sure that your head and neck are covered by your khimar and that your feet are completely covered by your socks and shoes (and, if you follow that opinion, that your face is covered by your niqab). None of the scholars have mentioned pants to be an overgarment so they are not referred to as jilbab but if the pants are indeed loose enough that they conceal modest clothing and the shape of the body underneath of them (leggings, skinny jeans, and underwear don`t count as such clothing) ---they might be adapted (IF THEY ARE LOOSE ENOUGH YOU COULD FIT LOOSE CLOTHING UNDERNEATH) with a VERY long tunic top or dress over top. I will do a post on this, but I do not recommend this as none of the scholars support this opinion, but I know there are some cases where women have to wear pants. It is safer to compose a jilbab out of coat, or abaya, but since some scholars have made it permissable to have the jilbab composed of different pieces since the khimar was cut from the jilbab, one might also wear a modest skirt and tunic over their modest clothing and have this suffice, though it is safer to wear a single piece garment. Allah and His Messenger know best.

From studying the subject of jilbab as I have, here is my opinion. It is not an istilal or fatwa, just my opinion:

I am of the opinion that jilbab and khimar are fard and the niqab is mustahaab (or in the very least halal). Along with the majority of scholars I think that the jilbab is a non-see through garment that covered everything but the face and hands, and that it may consist of more than one piece since women of the Ansaar made their headcoverings from the extra hanging cloth of their overgarments when the ayah precribing the obligation of khimar was revealed. Although historically this garment consisted of a solid-piece garment such similar to an abaya, with the addition of the headscarf worn in the Shariah prescribed manner, there are no ahadith that state that if the garment indeed is worn over the woman's usual clothing, that it cannot consist of more than these two pieces, such as a a long coat, and a skirt (I will do a seperate post on pants very soon because there are VERY few pants that can be worn as overgarments and if indeed you do believe the Qu'ran is perfect an overgarment is something that cannot be rejected-the condition of it was never lifted and it was a condition for all the believing peooples for all time). What the overgamrent (called jilbab) consists of can be debated by the different madhabs and each opinion is valid. The fact is though, the abaya is the safest approach to wear, since it is closest to the historical garment when covering the conditions of an overgarment (or a cloak that covers even the head because this is what the ansar wore before the ayah about khimar was revealed). But that does not mean that an educated woman (on the subject of hijab) cannot adapt other pieces of clothing found in today's malls cover the same principles.

The principles are
a. the piece or peices of clothing that form the jilbab must be worn over other clothing or be loose enough to accomodate decent clothing worn underneath. Leggings and bra are considered undergarments dearies (much love my sisters) and they don't count as clothing. If you can't wear loose pants under your tryingtopassforjilbab pants then those pants are not loose enough to meet the conditions of a woman's dress as prescribed the the Qu'ran and you should be wearing a loose garment over them at LEAST to your mid-calf but ankle is better (because there is NO one in the Ulema that says showing your ankle`s form is halal).
b. The overgarment must be loose enough to not show the shape of your body such as your breasts, your hips, the indent of your waist, or your butt. Anything else counts as clothed but naked and there is a hadith where the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam narrates that in hell there will be women you were fully covered but were nonetheless naked. Tight clothing counts as such.
c. It cannot be see-through. If the overgarments reveals anything that should be covered because of its transparency it counts as clothed but naked.
d. It cannot make an ostentatious show of wealth through its decoration or design or draw attention to sexuality, or be worn in such such a manner to stand out and be the center of attention. At the same time it cannot be styled in a deliberate manner to look messy or unkempt or deliberately so plain that one stands out from the people in that manner. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam resented us all to do anything in extremes, and showing off for mankind is considered a form of shirk. Our purpose in dressing should be to please Allah subhanahu wa ta ala and to be presentable and draw people to Islam (not to make them resent us for a more pious-than-thou attitude, for arousing lusts, or for making people feel inferior to our means and properties). Simple decoration was permitted in a few hadith. Ostentatious displays of wealth were NEVER.

It should not contain messages or symbols of the disbeliver's message that are contrary to the message and teachings of Islam. Nor should the clothing contain images of living creatures in anything other than abstract pattern, or faces of people.
f. it should not resemble another religious group in a way that confuses others about whether or not you are a Muslim.

Monday, March 16, 2009

An exchange between Salman Al-Farsi and Abu Darda to highlight the value of fashion/style in Islam

[for the picture I admire their modesty by I myself do not like the tucked in appearence of niqabs and overhead abayas and chadors with no eyes showing. To me, it is more than what was required even of the Prophets wives R.A---THEY showed their hands, their rings, the kohl rimmed eye, and wore colours other than black as evidenced by sahih ahadith]

ONE FASHIONISTA CONFRONTS THE VALUE OF FASHION IN ISLAM:

"Life goes on and bumps happen and marriages end and fashion matters not in the grand scheme of things. But appearance does matter. The downs of life had me thinking for a while that it didn’t. That’s where the word balance comes in - a word which is very au courant now but which has a history with Islam. My father often likes to relate a bit about the beautiful story of the bond between Salman Al-Farsi and Abu Darda’ to highlight the importance of maintaining a balance with all the spheres in our lives:

On Leading a Balanced Way of Life: The Prophet (sa) had established the bond of brotherhood between Salman and Abu Darda’ (sp). Salman went to see Abu Darda’ and found his wife looking disheveled (her appearance was not that of a married woman). He asked her: ‘What’s wrong?’ She replied: ‘Your brother, Abu Darda’ has no worldly desires.’ Then Abu Darda’ arrived and prepared some food for Salman and said: ‘Go ahead and eat, I am fasting.’ Salman said: ‘I shall not eat unless you eat with me.’ So Abu Darda’ ate with him. At night Abu Darda’ arose for the voluntary prayer. Salman told him to go to sleep, so he slept. This happened again. Towards the latter part of the night Salman said to him: ‘Wake up’ and both offered the prayer together.

Then Salman said: ‘It is true that you owe your duty to your Lord, but you also owe a duty to yourself and to your wife. So you should carry out your duty to everyone.’ Then they went to the Prophet (sa) and related all that transpired to him. He said: ‘Salman was right.’” - Bukhari

Somehow the downs of life had shifted my mind into thinking that a woman’s appearance should be un-remarkable, un-commentable to the outside world - i.e., Islamically, she should be so blah if she were really God-fearing that her blahness indicated her level of piety. Warped, I know. On discussing the issue with friends, I found out I wasn’t the only one whose mind had shifted this way. There were a whole bunch of us walking around looking like Abu-Darda’s wife yet there was no Salman Al-Farsi [who was a non-maharam male witnessing her appearence] to ask what was wrong. This is where discussions with a Dad who happens to be an Islamic scholar is handy. He patiently explained that following hijab/dressing modestly does not automatically cancel out a pleasing and agreeable, even fashionable (!) outer appearance. In fact, the Qur’an acknowledges clothing as “a thing of beauty” - but we are also reminded in the same verse that the best garment is God-consciousness (Surah 7, verse 26). What a beautiful reminder of balance! So hijabi fashionistas - look for “things of beauty” on the racks at H&M and Zara and Precious Modesty, but while you’re looking, remember to be wearing your best outfit: God-consciousness."
Please note: this little bit was taken from another sister, and my father is a non-muslim, NOT an Islamic scholar. I totally agree with the article. As long as you are obeying the commandments of hijab (modesty for both MEN and women) you can do what you like with it. Of course it is often culture that tries to pass itself off as Islam that gets us all into a little mess with suppression, or a debasement of the standards of hijab and has everyone running around all confused.

Friday, March 13, 2009

when i first started wearing hijab, and what i wish i would have known then

I remember the day I decided I was a Muslim (my parents and family are disbelievers---one Agnostic/almost atheist---one-not-practicing-the-word-person-of-the-book---and one spell-casting pagan Wiccan [ironic that the pagan was the most supportive of my conversion/reversion). I had always believed in the five pillars of Islam, but it was time for me to start obeying the Qu'ran and the Messenger of Allah (S.A.W.).

The thing I started with was wearing hijab because that was the only thing I knew anything about. I knew Muslims had to pray five times a day (and I did that), but I didn't know that there was a way to do that (I didn't know to say Al Fatihah or make ruku ect. and I didn't have a book or computer yet with which to look that up) but I did know (from a trip in the Gulf and having known African Muslim women) that a Muslim women should wear a headscarf that some call "hijab" when she left her home or went out among those who she could never be certain of their intentions towards her.
Wa qul li al-mu'minat yaghdudna min absarihinna wa yahfazna furujahunna wa laa yubdina zenatahunna illa maa zahara min haa wal-yadribna bi khumurihinna ala juyubihinna; wa laa yubdina zenatahunna illa li bu'ulatihinna aw aba'ihinna aw aba'i bu'ulatihinna aw abna'ihinna aw abna'i bu'ulatihinna aw ikhwanihinna aw bani ikhwanihinna aw bani akhawatihinna aw nisa'ihinna aw maa malakat aymanu hunna aw at-tabi'ina ghayri ulu'l-irbat min ar-rijal aw at-tifl alladhina lam yazharu ala awrat an-nisa wa laa yadribna bi arjulihinna li yu'lama maa yukhfina min zenatahinna. Wa tubu ilaAllahi jami'an, ayyuha al-mu'minun la'allakum tuflihun (Surah an-Nur, ayah 31)

A translation of this is:
And say to the faithful women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their adornment except what is apparent of it, and to extend their headcoverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to God together, O you the faithful, in order that you are successful

I knew she should do it, because the Qu'ran said "pull your headress [khimar] so that it covers your chest [jube]". It was quite clear to me then (when I was a person who ignorantly said I believe in the Qu'ran but not the ahadith), as it remains even clearer to me now, that covering one's hair, neck, ears, AND chest are compelled in this verse. I still don't understand how some can try and say, that this was just a historical way of getting believing women not to show cleavage. Women at this time period DID cover their hair (so commanding this a second time would have been unnecessary as it was already as obvious to these women as it was to me and many others upon first reading). During this time period when Surah an-Nur was revealed, women were already compelled by revelations in the Jewish and Christian scriptures to cover their hair. Since I was fostered a few months out of the year, by a practicing family of the book, I know the commandments in the Bible very well in memory: But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head for that is even all one as if she were shaven. For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered. Corinthians 11:4-16 (King James Version) So the only thing the Muslim women were asked to do in addition to their covering of their heads and hair, was to pull their headresses (which is what the word khimar means) to cover in addition, also their chests, and thus necks. If the Qu'ran wanted to say "cover your chest" instead of covering your chest while covering also covering what you already cover, it would have said, add another button, or where such and such a garment/dress/caftan/blouse that it covers such and such a part. Also, the women that say the headscarf is not necessary usually contradict themselves by covering their hair when in prayer because a hadith narrated by Aisha (R.A) makes it even clearer that one must do so: The Prophet (SAW) said, "The Salat of a woman, who has reached puberty, is not accepted unless she is wearing a Khimar." (Sahih - Al-Khamsa except An-Nasaa’ee) Studying the hadith, I have found numerous narrations describing what women of the sahaba wore, and going out of the home, it inlcuded the headcovering. Now that I know more about hijab, I know that wearing tight clothing is actually worse than not wearing a headscarf, and now that I have studied the subject of hijab in depth, I am aware that a headscarf was not the first and most important object of dress that a woman was required to do as an obligation to her Creator. A modest overgarment (jilbab) was actually required of women of the Sahaba, before correcting how they wore their headresses. This is because the ayah regarding jilbab was revealed BEFORE the one concerning khimar/hijab. But that is simply something I didn't know when I first made my shahada.
So when I set about trying to first wear hijab, I had no long sleeves, so I bought a white cotton button-up blouse (not tunic length but average), and a few pashminas. I also bought a couple of sheath dresses, which I layered overtop of my trousers and then wore hijab with. Alhahamdulilah, I was always spot on with wearing the khimar (I have decided not to call it hijab on this site from now on, because hijab is the entire aura of modesty a Muslim woman embodies not just her headscarf and so the term is sooooooooo often misused) so that it covered my chest, but the rest of the outfit was too tight. Sometimes, you could see the indent of my hips, or the curve of my butt. Ladies, LOL, in the words of Baba Ali, that's not hijab! Plus, this was soooooooo hot. Eventially I found looser dresses, but the pants were still too curvalicious. The shape of even my calves showing didn't seem like proper hijab. I started wearing a long skirt, and layering a long coat over my shirts, and that was aLOT more modest and Islamic, but the fact was, while I was wearing an overgarment on my top with a trench coat or long tunic here and there, I still wasn't wearing an overgarment since the coat wasn't covering all my skirt. If I had worn something under the skirt, I think it would have been fine, and would have met all the requirement of hijab, but it would have been waaaaaaaaaaaaay too hot. So I started wearing abaya, or maxi dresses and long tunic/or coat as a jilbab, and that DID meet all the Islamic obligations of the Qu'ran, and it was alot less hot as well. I personally do not think pants can count as Islamic hijab unless they are loose enough to wear baggy shorts or a mini-skirt underneath of (which, I do admit I have started to see from emerging designers) because unless they can be worn as an overgarment, they don't count as hijab. This goes for way too tight abayas as well. If I can see your hips and butt that abaya ain't jilbab baby girl. If you have cut outs in the dress, or it is see-through, you better be wearing something just as modest underneath of that, or, IT AIN'T HIJAB.
Hijab is a religious obligation to Allah (S.W.T). It should not be enforced by a government, a religious institution, or culture, because it is indeed a choice that one only owes out of respect for themselves, and thus respect for their Creator. The only one that will judge anyone on the subject will be Allah (S.W.T), but this blog will outline (along with style:D) what Allah (S.W.T) HAS set down as mandatory for the Muslim woman who respects herself (and so shows her respect for her Creator). It is more than a headscarf, but also modesty of action and intention. If you are a Muslim new to practicing Islam, always wear non-see through clothes, and a headcovering when you pray, and try to get an Islamic wardrobe as soon as you afford to. On top of that though I will add, in order to cover your skin, don't worry about your sleeves touching the elbows ect if it means wearing tight clothes. Try to wear looser clothing first as you gradually incorporate more coverage into your wardrobe as you have the means too. It is better to go out in public in clothing that is modest in your culture rather than supertight but all skin covered and with hijab-hijab. When I first coverted/reverted, rather than wearing an oxford, trousers, and booty-hugging pencil skirt over my trousers with hijab, I should have not worried so much about slapping that headscarf on, but should have kept wearing my rather modest sleeveless dresses from Africa, and layered a three-quarter sleeve cardi over it (and probably no hijab--since I couldn't even know all the requirements of hijab or explain to others about them I wasn't necessarily ready to get reward for my khimar). Better loose and practically all covered, than all covered but the shape of the body entirely apparent, making the headscarf seem instead ironic, rather than pious. For those who live in a predominately Muslim country--you have NO idea how lucky you are with what is readily available to you.

Monday, March 9, 2009

Underneath the Veil: and into the Muslim Woman's Closet

What do Muslim women wear underneath their scarves, loose-fitting robes, and face veils? Well outside the home and under the possible scrutiny of non-maharam males (unrelated men who could take sexual interest in a woman of maturity) they wear a form of hijab, whatever their personal beliefs and cultural setting dictate that is composed of: headscarf/khimar (hijab), modest clothing or overgamrent (abaya-jilbab), and or not a face veil (niqab).
At home or in a private setting, with family, or women-only friends a woman can be as comfortable or as dressed up as she wants. She can wear traditional arabic dresses such as caftan, takchita, and jalabiyia, or she can wear Western style designer clothing and fancy dresses, or regular street wear such as jeans. She is not supposed to expose her breasts or privates even in this setting, and showing off her cleavage and stomache are discouraged even among women but she can do so if she wishes (logic for my saying is her father and other women have NO desire to see her breasts bouncing really).
With her husband she is free to revel in her sexuality, and no parts of her body are off limts for her to expose in a loving relationship with her man. In Islam, sexuality is cherished between a husband and wife. Here is an article about how sexuality meshes with modesty:
Veiled Sexuality Meshes with Muslim ValuesThursday, Sept. 4, 2008
By NAOMI WOLF
NEW YORK — A woman swathed in black to her ankles, wearing a head scarf or a full chador, walks down a European or North American street, surrounded by other women in halter tops, miniskirts and short shorts. She passes under immense billboards on which other women swoon in sexual ecstasy, cavort in lingerie or simply stretch out languorously, almost fully naked. Could this image be any more iconic of the discomfort the West has with the social mores of Islam, and vice versa?

Ideological battles are often waged with women’s bodies as their emblems, and Western Islamophobia is no exception. When France banned head scarves in schools, it used the hijab as a proxy for Western values in general, including the appropriate status of women. When Americans were being prepared for the invasion of Afghanistan, the Taliban were demonized for denying cosmetics and hair color to women; when the Taliban were overthrown, Western writers often noted that women had taken off their scarves.But are we in the West radically misinterpreting Muslim sexual mores, particularly the meaning to many Muslim women of being veiled or wearing the chador? And are we blind to our own markers of the oppression and control of women?
The West interprets veiling as repression of women and suppression of their sexuality. But when I traveled in Muslim countries and was invited to join a discussion in women-only settings within Muslim homes, I learned that Muslim attitudes toward women’s appearance and sexuality are not rooted in repression, but in a strong sense of public versus private, of what is due to God and what is due to one’s husband. It is not that Islam suppresses sexuality, but that it embodies a strongly developed sense of its appropriate channeling — toward marriage, the bonds that sustain family life and the attachment that secures a home.
Outside the walls of the typical Muslim households that I visited in Morocco, Jordan and Egypt, all was demureness and propriety. But inside, women were as interested in allure, seduction and pleasure as women anywhere in the world.

At home, in the context of marital intimacy, Victoria’s Secret, elegant fashion, and skin care lotions abounded. The bridal videos that I was shown, with the sensuous dancing that the bride learns as part of what makes her a wonderful wife, and which she proudly displays for her bridegroom, suggested that sensuality was not alien to Muslim women. Rather, pleasure and sexuality, both male and female, should not be displayed promiscuously — and possibly destructively — for all to see.

Indeed, many Muslim women I spoke with did not feel at all subjugated by the chador or the head scarf. On the contrary, they felt liberated from what they experienced as the intrusive, commodifying, basely sexualizing Western gaze.

Many women said something like this: “When I wear Western clothes, men stare at me, objectify me, or I am always measuring myself against the standards of models in magazines, which are hard to live up to — and even harder as you get older, not to mention how tiring it can be to be on display all the time. When I wear my head scarf or chador, people relate to me as an individual, not an object; I feel respected.”

This may not be expressed in a traditional Western feminist set of images, but it is a recognizably Western feminist set of feelings. I experienced it myself. I put on a shalwar kameez and a head scarf in Morocco for a trip to the bazaar. Yes, some of the warmth I encountered was probably from the novelty of seeing a Westerner so clothed; but, as I moved about the market — the curve of my breasts covered, the shape of my legs obscured, my long hair not flying about me — I felt a novel sense of calm and serenity. I felt, yes, in certain ways, free.

Nor are Muslim women alone. The Western Christian tradition portrays all sexuality, even married sexuality, as sinful. Islam and Judaism never had that same kind of mind-body split. So, in both cultures, sexuality channeled into marriage and family life is seen as a source of great blessing, sanctioned by God.

This may explain why both Muslim and orthodox Jewish women not only describe a sense of being liberated by their modest clothing and covered hair, but also express much higher levels of sensual joy in their married lives than is common in the West. When sexuality is kept private and directed in ways seen as sacred — and when one’s husband isn’t seeing his wife (or other women) half-naked all day long — one can feel great power and intensity when the head scarf or the chador comes off in the sanctity of the home.

Among healthy young men in the West, who grow up on pornography and sexual imagery on every street corner, reduced libido is a growing epidemic, so it is easy to imagine the power that sexuality can still carry in a more modest culture. And it is worth understanding the positive experiences that women — and men — can have in cultures where sexuality is more conservatively directed.

I do not mean to dismiss the many women leaders in the Muslim world who regard veiling as a means of controlling women. Choice is everything. But Westerners should recognize that when a woman in France or Britain chooses a veil, it is not necessarily a sign of her repression. And, more importantly, when you choose your own miniskirt and halter top — in a Western culture in which women are not so free to age, to be respected as mothers, workers or spiritual beings, and to disregard Madison Avenue — it’s worth thinking in a more nuanced way about what female freedom really means.

Naomi Wolf, the author, most recently, of “The End of America: Letter of Warning to a Young Patriot” and the forthcoming “Give me Liberty: How to Become an American Revolutionary,” is cofounder of the American Freedom Campaign, a U.S. democracy movement. © 2008 Project Syndicate (http://www.project-syndicate.org/)
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