Tazkirah: Be Gentle

3:159 (Y. Ali) It is part of the Mercy of Allah that thou dost deal gently with them Wert thou severe or harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about thee: so pass over (their faults), and ask for (Allah’s) forgiveness for them; and consult them in affairs (of moment). Then, when thou hast taken a decision put thy trust in Allah. For Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him).
The Prophet sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam “He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good.” (Abu Dawood)

The Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, also said: Indeed gentleness does not enter into anything except it beautifies it, nor is it removed from anything except that it makes it ugly [Reported by Imam Muslim].

Narrated ‘Aisha (radiAllahu anha): The Jews used to greet the Prophet( sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) by saying, “As-Samu ‘Alaika (i.e., death be upon you), so I understood what they said, and I said to them, “As-Samu ‘alaikum wal-la’na (i.e. Death and Allah’s Curse be upon you).” The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said, “Be gentle and calm, O ‘Aisha, as Allah likes gentleness in all affairs.” [Sahih Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 75, Number 404]

Narrated `Aisha (radiAllahu anha) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) said, “Allah is Forbearer (Rafeeq) and loves forbearance (rifq) in all matters.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

The Prophet (s.a.w) said: “Allah likes gentleness in all matters.” [Bukhari]


Bestow your gentleness- Mishary Al-Arada & Homoud Al-Khether
Action plan

1. Avoiding hurting or harming others
2. Being cheerful and positive in one’s dealing with others
3. Recognizing the good of others and reciprocating
4. Responding to the wrong of others with nothing but the go
5. Have good manners
6. Manage your anger
7. Control your tongue
8. Be tolerant
9. Be Patient
10. Forgive